hmm, that alarmhudraidlist does pretty much what i need, in fact it does too much
, it also looks a bit abandoned but i'll make a reply on that page anyway. maybe the author is willing to make some little changes.
here are the changes i requested there:
"* out of range players displayed in dimmed color in stead of "---" in front of their name.
* display of the 3 statlines on top optional
* sorting by group instead of class (with optional groupheader)
* choice of font and fontsize (+ optional outline?)
* moveable!"