There is no such addon
because no such addon is possible. You can't enable/disable action buttons based on conditions other than those that are available in macros, and the only way to "enable" or "disable" the action button is to use a macro, eg.
Code:
/cast [group:raid] Savage Roar
... would "enable" the button while in a raid group, and disable it otherwise. There are no macro conditionals for checking aura durations.
The correct solution to your problem is to simply pay attention to what's going on, rather than just mashing all the buttons randomly. If you can't see your important buffs (and debuffs), get a better buff addon.